The Big Money Question: Who Pays for What? | OneWed

 

The Big Money Question: Who Pays for What? | OneWed.

We all know that there are traditional expectations as to who pays for what when it comes to a wedding, but the truth is now anything goes.  It all depends on the financial stability of everyone involved so base your expectations on that.  Our friends over at onewed are giving you the 411 on the big money issue when it comes to weddings. 

 

The Big Money Question: Who Pays for What?

The topic of money and who pays for the wedding is one of the questions most commonly asked in the early stages of wedding planning.  These days the division of who pays for what has evolved and changed to adapt to what fits each couple, and we think it’s about time.  This article is meant to address the question of who traditionally pays for what.  We’re giving you this list as a starting point, but strongly encourage you to take this list and make it work for you!

Bride’s Financial Responsibilities:
• Groom’s ring
• Gifts for your bridesmaids
• A wedding gift for your groom
• A gift for your parents
• Medical exam for herself (as required by the state, and those to procure any desired contraceptives)
• Bridesmaid luncheon, generally held the week of the wedding
• Hair, makeup and beauty treatments on the wedding day and leading up to it
• Accommodations for your out-of-town guests & attendants
• If you’re having a destination wedding, accommodations for your bridesmaids

Family of the Bride Financial Responsibilities:
• Save the Date announcements and Wedding Invitations
• Engagement party (if they host one for you)
  • Wedding Planner
• A gift for you and your groom
• Wedding dress & all of your accessories
• Wedding attire for all of the bride’s family
• Lunch/brunch for you and your bridesmaids on the wedding day
• Bridesmaid’s bouquets
• Personal flowers (corsages) for all grandmothers
• Ceremony site rental and associated fees
• Other ceremony décor
• Programs for the ceremony
• Rentals for the ceremony and reception
• Floral arrangements for the ceremony and reception
• Music for the ceremony and reception
• Reception location rental fees
• Food for the reception
• Reception floral arrangements
• Other reception decor
• Photographer
• Videographer
• Wedding cake
• Favors
• Transportation for the you, your wedding party and your family on the day of the wedding
• Gratuities for any vendors above (see our handy tipping guide here)
• Post-wedding brunch

Groom’s Financial Responsibilities:
• Engagement and wedding ring for the bride
• Bridal bouquet
• A wedding gift for the bride
• Medical exam for himself (as required by the state)
• Gifts for the groomsmen and ushers
• A gift for his parents
• Cost of the marriage license
• Officiant’s fees
• Personal flowers/corsages for all women (excluding bridesmaids and grandmothers)
• Boutonnieres for all men
• His formalwear & accessories
• Gloves, ties & accessories for men in the party
• Honeymoon
• Transportation for bride & groom at the end of the night
• Transportation to the honeymoon
• Accommodations for his out-of-town guests & attendants
• If you’re having a destination wedding, accommodations for his groomsmen

Family of the Groom’s Financial Responsibilities:
• Engagement party (if they host you one)
• The entire cost of the rehearsal dinner
• Their own wedding attire
• Their own travel expenses
• A wedding gift for the bride and groom
• Transportation for groom & best man to the ceremony
• Reception beverages
• Groom’s cake
• When applicable, the cost to ship all wedding gifts to the bride and groom’s home

Attendant’s Financial Responsibilities
• Bachelor & bachelorette parties
• Bridal showers
• A wedding gift for the couple
• Their attire & accessories (purchasing or renting)
• Their travel expenses
• Flower girl & ring bearer attire & accessories – their parents pay

Again, none of this is set in stone, but it gives you an idea of where to begin.  Things to keep in mind when tailoring this list to fit you:
• The financial situation of each party involved; if you’re in a position to shoulder more financial responsibility to make it easier for someone else, do it.
• More contribution means more involvement: the more one party is footing of the overall bill, the more influence they should have in the decision making process
• Division of the guests: if his parents give you a guest list that makes up half of your entire guest list, it’s okay to ask them to contribute more
• Your age and position in life: if you’re getting married right out of college, it seems more practical and acceptable for your folks to pay for the majority of the wedding.  However if you’re in your mid-thirties, have a career and mortgage of your own, you should foot a larger portion of the cost of the wedding

What’s the best approach to dividing up responsibilities?  Talk to your honey first, then call a meeting where all contribution parties are present, and talk through it; it’s better for everyone to be clear and on the same page from the start, and it will save you on your Excedrin Migraine costs along the way!

Events by L’s Top 3 – Not Your Ordinary Wedding Day Emergency Kit – Must Haves!

Events by L Wedding Day Emergency Kit Must Haves!

As wedding and event planning experts we at Events by L have seen our share of crisis on an important day.  As all of our clients know, when it comes to the day-of any event you will always see our staff toting along our emergency kits on wheels.  They are in our cars at all times because it’s just plain handy to have!  I mean they have everything in there from perfume to allergy medicine.  But throughout the years there are definitely some tools that we carry that come in so handy and we have been very fortunate to have them on hand.  Here are a few must-have items that we recommend that you may not have thought of.

Zip Ties

We can not tell you how many times these bad boys have come in handy for us!  We have used these to get out of a jam from wiring to décor malfunctions.  We even have them in almost every color possible!

Screw Driver

We prefer the one that has the multi-bits with removable heads that you can change out depending on the job.  It’s like having 10 tools in one and we have utilized this more times than you can imagine.  The most recent dilemma was on a bubble blower that was malfunctioning.  If not for having this tool I don’t know what we would have done.  It really was a lifesaver as the most important element for this particular bride was to have their exit filled with bubbles for the picture.  The couple had met at a bubble themed kids birthday party so they wanted the perfect bubble filled bubble to have forever, which they got.

No-Sew, Temporary Velcro 

For all of you brides that envision an out-door wedding but don’t fully consider the weather elements, especially in the windy city.  This is a MUST!  The table runners and linens will keep getting blown away – Velcro to the rescue.  As opposed to pinning them in place, this will ensure your linens will not be damaged so you do not worry about getting charged by the linen company and everything will be in place for the evening.

Those are the top three essentials  we have discovered through our experiences and can not attend any event with out!  So, when you hire us for your next event look for us toting our handy-dandy tool boxes on wheels, and of course our clip boards and don’t forget to pack these handy items as well:

Wedding Day Emergency Kit

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